Expectations (Vol 1)

I wanted to pen this down as what it was said and how it was delivered.  In order to do that, I gotta be quick before I forget.  This comes in two different postings altogether.

  

Just recently, a guy friend approached me and asked what I expect in marriage.

I paused a little while before answering because I have so many expectations and I also thought that it might be a tricky question.  Now I'm not gonna lie and agree with the cheesy clichés that goes "Love Without Expectations".  That's just bullshit.  When you started to have feelings for someone, the expectations just evolve. 

I’ll list you down some of my expectations. 

I expect conflicts.  Because there are conflicts, there will be.  Something I know I just cant run myself away from.  There will always be something to argue on.  Might be as little as who switch the lights off at night.

I expect to be annoyed.  Because he’s not perfect and neither am I.  Some of the stuff when I’m in dating stage might thought it is small insignificant stuff but when I’m out there in “real world” when I’m in the sudden-realization-moment.  Which is alright I think, because I should just focus on his distinctive good qualities.

I would expect some delays.  Which is pretty much happening right now.  Some things just do not follow the schedules.  And when you eventually get there, there are some other delays too.  

I expect disappointments.  The maths goes expectations + dormant = disappointments. 

I expect to think I’m doing more.  I might be feeling that I’m doing more in keeping the relationship stable, more texting, more talking, more calling, more waiting for him to reply to my text — you get the idea.  But someone has to do something first.  Someone has to start.  It’s either him or me.

I expect to be with him until the end. It’s mental safety net thingy.  Even when I’m furious at him or extremely frustrated, I will not think of leaving.  This expectation also helps me realize that I might as well make my relationship as good as it can be because I’m in it for the long haul.

Expectations are there for you to meet.

To be continued…