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"Almost a decade ago, I stared at a friend in utter astonishment when she refused to tell another friend that we saw her husband walking with a PYT. Riled up in the spirit of sisterhood, I questioned her rationale. Coolly, she said, 'I am not going to be the bearer of ill tidings and I surely don't want her to cry on my shoulder. It would be an epic drama.' I did not appreciate her attitude at the time. How time flies and how perspective changes with life experience. Presently, I agree with her action unanimously.  It boils down to one thing, kindness."

Kak Ina has that on her FB status today.

My comment:

I certainly do not want to be the one who spill the spoil beans out. That poor soul will certainly could not look at the husband the same way once she found out even though she decided to forgive him. Kan? And the husband even though he regretted it to his bone marrow, his truth will always become questionable.

Justly,  people make mistake.  Commit sins.  But it is not something for people to brag especially to tell other people about it. Its a private thing.

Privacy is like eating or breathing, it is a necessity, one of those life's basic requirements.  Everybody has a secret they would pray hard to be always remain untold.  It's either we are trusted with one or its our own juicy stuff.  

All I'm saying is, if we see or hear about someone else committing a sin, we should always try to ignore it. Instead of spreading it, we should hide it and keep it a secret. 

It is reported that the Prophet (pbuh) has said:

Whosoever covers (the sins of) a Muslim, Allah covers (his sins) on the Day of Judgment. 

(Reported by Bukhari).

It goes the same with praying for other people's misery.  Sometimes people took the most pathetic measure to make themselves feel better.

There was once a drunkard by the name of Abdullah who was brought to our Prophet (pbuh) and the Prophet (pbuh) ordered that Abdullah should be whipped.  And one of those men said Abdullah should be cursed for his unrequited habits of drinking.  And may Allah put him to shame.

But the Prophet (pbuh) said:

Do not curse him, all I know that he loves Allah and His messenger.  Do not be a help to a Shaytaan against your brother.

(Reported by Bukhari).

What we learnt from the story of Abdullah, is that, no matter what a person does, as long as its not something idolatry, he should not be denied.  And we are in the wrong if we pray for Allah against him.  

Bottomline, stop damaging other people with our hatred.  It's enough that we hate the person but its better if we just let it go.